What I’ve learned is that people are going to come into my life and out of my life no matter what. And I have a choice - I can spend a lot of time & energy hiding my true self or I can decide to be vulnerable & honest and trust that the right people will stay and the right people will go.
For me, the latter is a lot easier. (And I’m always looking for more ease.)
"[I]f we are currently on paths that are way out of alignment, we may end up saying “no” quite a bit. But that’s okay.
It is okay because every “no” is actually a “yes” to the next step we are taking for ourselves. Our noes don’t have to keep people out, they can serve to open us up to even more love, peace, compassion, and pleasure."
"Noticing the difference between your true desires and your words is helpful for the times when we actually do want to say “no” to someone’s requests. It’s also helpful for the times we might have conflict between our heads, hearts, guts, and genitals.
It is not easy, but I know that becoming more fluent in the language of my body has been incredibly helpful in how I navigate pleasure and suffering."
“I’ve lived my life thinking that if I allowed too many to enter, I would be depleted. But what if I have it wrong? What if it is actually the opposite?
What if my expansion depends on letting go of my fears and boundaries?”
When you ask your body what it wants, it will answer. You may not be familiar with the language it is speaking (since most of us prefer to hang out in the circles of our heads), but it will answer. And over time, you will begin to speak that language more fluently.
When I look back at my own journey I can remember so much loneliness and hunger. Loneliness that resulted in ceaseless searching. I was an expert at searching in all the wrong places because I wasn’t aware of what my soul truly wanted. I was hungry and I took whatever was in front of me.
When we see something from one vantage point we believe that one story because it is the only thought we have. The evil boss, the hateful spouse, or the unrewarding job all become more so over time because we have shut down and become completely disinterested in seeing it from other directions.
But ultimately, it is your choice. That artwork, that boss, that spouse - they are not going to change. Only you can change your position and question the thoughts and the stories you’ve built up around them.
I talk to a lot of folks who want to change their lives. You want your boss to value you more, you want more fulfilling relationships, you want to do something more with your life.
I’ve certainly been there and I know what those places feel like.
When we are triggered by other people, we create stories that blamed them instead of doing the work on ourselves.
Very quickly, those stories become important parts of our identity.
Your growth edge is that place that pushes you to question yourself and your journey. That edge that feels scary because you’ve never been there. Your mind & body are telling you to stay put because it is unknown.
Your growth edge is that place that you know deep down you want to go toward. Maybe it keeps popping up on your radar or you keep thinking about it. But because it is so different from your current path, because it is so scary, you don’t go.
We hold a lot of wisdom within ourselves. The problem is actually finding it. Automatic writing is an invaluable tool you can incorporate into your practice to strengthen your #intuition and #trust.
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Bodywork is so important for spiritual growth. We can do spiritual and mental work for years - but if we don't do what is needed to shift at the physical level - things WILL stay the same. You will not trust yourself to step into the physically unknown - even when your spirit and mind are telling you to.
We all know how important it is to be present. But what is it? What does it really mean to be present?
For me, it was waking up to see the sunrise on the Quiraing in Scotland. Walking through the British Museum seeing some of the most beautifully sculpted spiritual artifacts in the world. Taking a stroll along the Water of Leith and taking in all the beauty of Edinburgh's neighborhoods. Coming upon Stonehenge at sunset with no one else around.