Sex and the practice of transformation

So many of us want better sex and deeper intimacy. We want to transform our relationships because they are no longer as fulfilling.

Transformation doesn’t often come in a flash or a sudden glimpse of heaven (those are awakenings).

In order to embody our awakenings we must be in an intentional practice of transformation.

Some of us wait around, hoping that someone or something will find us, see us, validate us - and magically take us to the next level. So many healers, apps, and medicines promise a quick fix that doesn’t involve deep work into the obstacles, challenges, pleasures, and pains of real transformation.

It doesn’t work like that. We have to make a decision to transform our own lives - a path that includes the challenges. When we do that, we can end up with a life that is more fulfilling, settled, and joyful.

My work is about transforming your sex life and radically changing the ways you give and receive with your erotic body.

I like to work in sex because it is bright, clear, electric, and oftentimes loads of fun.

The challenges and roadblocks we find in our sex lives are so often the same issues we can find in our friendships, our careers, and all of the other parts of our lives.

But, a path of transformation takes practice. A practice of experimenting, noticing, and being present with our bodies.

We’re not going to do it perfectly. We can’t opt out of the messiness. And that’s okay because in the messiness of unlearning we can find so much wisdom.

And we must be committed and intentional with the practice.

While I can show you a lot of techniques, skills, and tips about your body, sex, breath, and energy, none of those are going to transform your life or your pleasure.

But what I can do is show you how to navigate this path that includes all of your desires & pleasures, roadblocks & challenges.

I can hold you in a way so that you feel brave enough to confront the fear, shame, guilt, and grief that keep you from asking for all that you want.

I can help shine a light on the dynamics that are present in your relationships that make it harder to ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want.

I can help you learn to receive all that you want.

The work is slow and deep. And if you can show up and be present for it, you will rediscover the deeper levels of pleasure that are waiting for you.

If you’re ready to transform your sex life, if you’re ready to challenge your patterns in the ways you give and receive, please set up a consultation for us to talk about how we can move forward together. I offer 1-1 virtual sessions as well as in-person sessions.

These sessions involve touch and non-touch experiments with our physical, emotional, and energetic bodies.

It is a deep practice that will change your life, your sex, and your relationship to pleasure.