Creating the erotic life you want

I know the feeling. Things are fine, until one day, they aren’t.

Pleasure seems so far away. Great sex, laughter, and the feeling of deep connection is a distant memory — if it was even there in the first place.

And then we’re told that if we buy better clothes, lose more weight, or change our accessories — then pleasure will be more accessible.

But that’s a lie. None of those things will bring us into pleasure.

We have to unlearn all of the lies we’ve been programmed to think. And then we have to remember what we’ve forgotten about our bodies, our pleasure, and our presence.

We have to find pleasure within. And we have to build the skills and capacities to create, maintain, and end it (we do not want to be in pleasure ALL the time!).

Pleasure is never far away

In my experience, pleasure is never far away from me. Like everything in this world, it comes in waves, in seasons.

When I am at the crest of a wave, it will be hard to see the trough. And when I am in the trough, it will be hard to find the crest. And so the waves of pleasure and pain can lure us into thoughts of permanence. But, it will change. It is the nature of consciousness.

And whether the wave is full of pain or pleasure, we can still find fulfillment in all of it. We can still bring our erotic bodies to play with pleasure and with pain.

Learning what you need to ask for it

Being stuck in those waves without tethers, life jackets, rescue boats, or the ability to swim can lead us to deep suffering.

We must learn how to swim in these waters if we are going to create and recreate more of what we want.

And that is what we do when you step into 1-1 work with me.

We do this together with our bodies, with touch, and with pleasure & pain.

We look at the waves of pleasure and pain in your life. We look at where it is you want to go. We figure out what is creating challenges for you to get there. And then we practice.

You’ll get to…

🔥 Imagine and name your desires and fantasies.

🔥 Notice and acknowledge the shame, guilt, fear, and past trauma — it’s all part of it and it is going to be there.

🔥 Receive what you want and are willing to ask for — in your physical, emotional, and energetic bodies.

🔥 Learn how to negotiate requests so that you’re getting all that you want within the warm spaciousness of consent and integrity.

🔥 Figure out what you need in your relationships to feel brave enough to keep asking for, creating, and receiving what you want.

It’s a beautiful, beautiful process.

It has changed my life and I’ve seen it change many others.

If you’re interested in finding out more, set up a time for us to chat. I’m looking forward to it.