What singing (very badly) at a talent show taught me about vulnerability and growth

What I’ve learned is that people are going to come into my life and out of my life no matter what. And I have a choice - I can spend a lot of time & energy hiding my true self or I can decide to be vulnerable & honest and trust that the right people will stay and the right people will go.

For me, the latter is a lot easier. (And I’m always looking for more ease.)

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Saying “no,” getting rid of boundaries, and saying “yes” to love & pleasure

"​[I]f we are currently on paths that are way out of alignment, we may end up saying “no” quite a bit. But that’s okay.

It is okay because every “no” is actually a “yes” to the next step we are taking for ourselves. Our noes don’t have to keep people out, they can serve to open us up to even more love, peace, compassion, and pleasure."​

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Adam Nicholsonboundaries, yes, no, easton
Discover what you want in the sacred pause

"Noticing the difference between your true desires and your words is helpful for the times when we actually do want to say “no” to someone’s requests. It’s also helpful for the times we might have conflict between our heads, hearts, guts, and genitals.

It is not easy, but I know that becoming more fluent in the language of my body has been incredibly helpful in how I navigate pleasure and suffering."​

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They Are Not Going to Change

When we see something from one vantage point we believe that one story because it is the only thought we have. The evil boss, the hateful spouse, or the unrewarding job all become more so over time because we have shut down and become completely disinterested in seeing it from other directions.

But ultimately, it is your choice. That artwork, that boss, that spouse - they are not going to change. Only you can change your position and question the thoughts and the stories you’ve built up around them.

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Adam Nicholson
Take Responsibility for the Stories in Your Head

I talk to a lot of folks who want to change their lives. You want your boss to value you more, you want more fulfilling relationships, you want to do something more with your life.

I’ve certainly been there and I know what those places feel like.

When we are triggered by other people, we create stories that blamed them instead of doing the work on ourselves.

Very quickly, those stories become important parts of our identity.

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Getting to Your Growth Edge

Your growth edge is that place that pushes you to question yourself and your journey. That edge that feels scary because you’ve never been there. Your mind & body are telling you to stay put because it is unknown.

Your growth edge is that place that you know deep down you want to go toward. Maybe it keeps popping up on your radar or you keep thinking about it. But because it is so different from your current path, because it is so scary, you don’t go.

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Being Present thru Travel & Erotic Energy

We all know how important it is to be present. But what is it? What does it really mean to be present?

For me, it was waking up to see the sunrise on the Quiraing in Scotland. Walking through the British Museum seeing some of the most beautifully sculpted spiritual artifacts in the world. Taking a stroll along the Water of Leith and taking in all the beauty of Edinburgh's neighborhoods. Coming upon Stonehenge at sunset with no one else around.

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