Skills for Authentic Connection (free)
Skills for Authentic Connection
For the last 6 years, I have been tracking and studying five core skills that are necessary for authentic relating and connection.
These five skills are about how we bring awareness to responsibility, vulnerability, curiosity, trust, and presence.
In this free 60-minute class, we will
Look at the five core skills and consider our relationship to them
Be in embodied practice to better understand what we would like to hone and support
Talk about how a lack of clarity in these skills often puts us into relationships we don’t want to be in
Discuss ways to deepen a practice that helps find a deeper understanding of these skills as they reside within us
Click here to register. Please be sure to select the correct date as each month we'll be exploring different aspects of the relational lenses.
The Relational Lenses Series is designed to introduce you to several foundational pieces that show up consistently in relationships. These pieces come from years of practice and study that incorporate teachings and learnings on conflict, power, consent, and relational skill building.
Nov 21, 2024 - Navigating Hurt & Harm
Dec 19, 2024 - The Practice of the Wheel of Consent®
Jan 16, 2025 - Skills for Authentic Connection
Feb 20, 2025 - The Impact of Power in Relationships
Authentic Relating: The Deep Practice of the Wheel of Consent®
Authentic Relating is an in-person, experiential workshop for you to explore your relationships, desires, limits, and blocks. We use the practice of the Wheel of Consent to navigate the space and open up undiscovered wisdom.
January 31 - February 2
Oak Ridge, TN
$200-$600
About the course
In this course, we will be exploring the ways we join in relationship and community with one another through the practice of the Wheel of Consent®.
The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin (School of Consent website).
It brings clarity and discernment into what we want & how we ask for it, and it helps us understand why we haven’t received it.
The Wheel of Consent® is an embodied practice that can be done 1-1 as well as with couples, teams, or large organizations.
It is simple, subtle, and profound.
It creates a space to unlearn and unravel the ways we are taught to relate to one another in how we serve, give, receive, set limits, and show up authentically.
Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world.
It has reshaped how practitioners and professionals are trained and it has transformed how participants show up in their interpersonal relationships.
This is a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions.
Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes practices connected to your understanding of relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.
In this practice, we develop our capacity to tune into our bodies and our ability to skillfully and gracefully navigate interactions and dynamics in intimate and professional relationships.
You will come away with
You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to navigate consent in all your interactions, including these practical embodied skills:
Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
Navigate power dynamics, trauma, and systemic oppression and their impact on our capacity to access choice and respect boundaries
Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play
Our increased awareness enables more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.
Applied professionally, it makes us more effective practitioners, able to affect human change and healing.
Applied personally, it allows us to access deeper and more meaningful connections.
About the facilitator
Adam Nicholson (they/them) is a coach, mentor, guide, and facilitator based in Clarksville, TN. Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of how we can navigate relationships with more awareness of consent, power, and integrity. Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other teachers. Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 6 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
Guidelines and Rules
How we ask that you engage with each other:
Confidentiality — to share only about our own personal experiences and learnings
I statements - Share with intention, using "I" statements. Listen with attention.
Honor lived experience - Use the names and pronouns people request and honor the lived experience of others in the group. Notice and set aside assumptions about people's identities and experiences (e.g. gender, race, sexuality, etc.).
Limits - Stay within the stated limits of each practice. The workshop is clothed. We will not state wants for, or make requests or offers for unclothed or genital during exercises. There will be options to engage in practices with other participants and it is not required.
What we invite for your own experience:
Agreements to hold the group
Agreements are the intentions we use to hold the group. These are not rules, but repeated or intentional digression from the agreements can create harm within yourself, other participants, and the group.
Responsibility - I will take responsibility for my desires, limits, and body. I will not take away your responsibility to make choices around your desires, limits, or body.
Vulnerability - I will take responsibility for my desires, limits, and body. I will not take away your responsibility to make choices around your desires, limits, or body.
Curiosity - I will be consistently curious about my desires, limits, and body. I will question my habits, thoughts, and patterns, and work to unlearn pieces that I have been taught to be true by the dominant culture. When conflict arises, I will be curious about your actions and not project my own assumptions and thoughts.
Trust - I will be curious and questioning about what I want in order to feel safe enough to be present with myself and with you. I will ask for what I need to develop trust.
Presence - I will be conscious of my choices to be present. I will ask myself and others for what I need to be present physically, emotionally, energetically, and mentally.
Acknowledgments About Racialization, Neurodivergence, Disabilities
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel of Consent, and our intention is for this to be a safe enough space for learning for everyone. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. As facilitators and humans, we are committed to serving you as best as possible. Please email Adam to let us know your questions or accessibility needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.
Pricing and Logistics
Location: East Tennessee Mentorship Association (111 Robertsville Rd, Oak Ridge, TN 37830, map)
Times:
Friday, January 31: 5 PM - 8 PM ET
Saturday, February 1: 9 AM - 5 PM ET
Sunday, February 2: 9 AM - 5 PM ET
Pricing is on a sliding scale, please choose what is best for you.
This group requests your time, energy, presence, and money. These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited in dominant culture.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
Pricing is based on a sliding scale to ease at least one of those dynamics.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
$200 - I am close to or below a living wage
$300 - I am slightly above a living wage
$400 - I am making ends meet and can afford occasional treats
$500 - I can afford minor travel, vacations, and investments
$600 - I have investments and can afford travel, vacations, and self-care
*If you have any questions, please email adam@adamnicholson.co.
Refund policy
If you are unable to attend, you may choose to have your payment refunded minus an administration fee, according to the following schedule:
More than 30 days before the event: Full refund, less $30 admin fee
15-30 days before the event: 50% refund, or, if you can fill your spot with someone else, a full refund
Less than 15 days before the event: No refunds, or unless you/we can fill your spot with someone else*
*In cases of illness or family emergency, we will endeavor to refund your full tuition less any unrecoverable costs, or transfer to a future offering.
*If you have any questions, please email adam@adamnicholson.co.
Decolonizing and Unsettling Consent
We all live within an illusion of consent that continues to oppress us.
We exist within systems of oppression that use violence, rape, land theft, torture, and coercion.
These systems hide behind a veil of “consent” that limits our choices and convinces us to conform to a culture that only serves to protect money and those who have it.
These systems exist externally in our nations, cities, and communities. But they also entrap us in our relationships, thoughts, and selves.
When we don’t examine and question these hierarchical systems, we inevitably default to the ones who hold power, rank, and privilege.
Decolonizing and Unsettling Consent
with Dr. Roger Kuhn and Adam Nicholson
3 Sat. sessions - Feb 8, Feb 22, Mar 8
8 AM - 4 PM CT
on Zoom
REGISTER HERE
Consent is not enough to hold our communities and relationships within integrity.
To find fulfillment, joy, and integrity we must untangle ourselves, our beliefs, and our actions from the colonial systems of oppression that create and maintain harmful power dynamics.
When we are unconscious, unaware, or unwilling to regard of the impact of colonization and settler mentality, we can come to agreements of consent that are outside of integrity.
It is in this state that we use consent as a tool of manipulation to hurt, take advantage, and harm others (even those we love).
Yet, we believe there are alternatives. This class is an invitation to explore and re-examine the ways in which we practice consent, create communities, and hold our relationships.
This class is a space to…
question our practices of consent as they are held within ongoing settler systems
shed the discomfort of processing privilege
create a love- and heart-centered community that questions, antagonizes, and blasts through old patterns, behaviors, thoughts, and beliefs that are not held within integrity.
shine a light on our own complicity in maintaining models of consent that are woven into systems of oppression
offer new avenues to think, feel, and act about how we create relationships, groups, and communities within models of consent that are untethered from colonial constructs.
become grounded and aware of what we’re going to gain and lose in order to be within integrity.
model how spaces can be created and maintained in ways that honor our bodies, desires, and limits
gain new perspectives on what integrity and consent mean to you.
You will leave this class with new perspectives on how you want to be in relationships that are disentangled from colonial and capitalistic systems.
You will refine what integrity means to you and how you want to create and maintain it in your life.
This class is experiential and you will be invited into embodied practices to notice, feel, and share. You always get to choose how you participate.
An important part of this class will be experienced with a triad of other participants. You’ll be asked to meet on your own triad outside of class for listening turns. And you’ll also be in collaboration with your triad during class as you co-create, imagine, and dream of new agreements of consent together.
This is for people who are
just starting their journey or well into it. We want to create a collaborative space where we can learn and be present from one another.
interested in questioning how practices of consent can result in manipulation, gate-keeping, violence, hurt, harm when we do not question the systems and power dynamics present in our groups and relationships
ready to deeply question themselves and their own complicity and victimization within systems of oppression.
curious about the intersections of consent, social justice, and decolonization/unsettling.
curious about how models of consent can be expanded into groups and communities without replicating or maintaining the threads of the systems of oppression they exist within.
What’s going to happen
Over 9 weeks we are going to experiment, question, and explore the ways in which we can decolonize and unsettle ourselves, our practices of consent, and our relationships.
We have a map for our process but we are also holding this as an emergent and fluid process. As facilitators, we are here to create the space and hold the group accountable to the agreements and rules.
Triads – each participant will be included in a triad for the duration of the class. We’re inviting each triad to meet at least once for listening turns and reflections.
You’ll also be with your triad more toward the end of our class to co-create, imagine, and dream of new ways to be within consent and integrity in your relationships.
Here is an outline of what we plan to explore.
Session 1 — February 8
Creating community, agreements, setting the container
Problematics of consent & agreements
Power dynamics and the body
Session 2 — February 22
Groups, communities, and colonial oppression
Conflict, curiosity, unlearning, and compassion
Safe enough to be vulnerable and present
Session 3 — March 8
Asking for what you want, asking for limits
Imagining and dreaming a new way with your triad
Integrating, debriefing, and closing
The facilitators
Dr. Roger Kuhn
Dr. Roger Kuhn is a Poarch Creek Two-Spirit Indigiqueer soma-cultural sex therapist, sexuality educator, writer, activist, and musician.
Roger’s work explores the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling sexuality and focuses on the way culture impacts and informs our bodily experiences.
He is a community organizer of the Bay Area American Indian Two-Spirit powwow, and a board member of the Two-Spirit & Native LGBTQ+ Center for Equity. His first book, Somacultural Liberation, is available in both paperback and audio. His music can be streamed on all digital platforms.
clinical practice website & music and performing website
Adam Nicholson
Adam (they/them) is a facilitator, consent educator, and coach based in Tennessee.
Their 1-1 and group work center around how we can create, negotiate, and maintain heart-centered groups and relationships with clarity and ease.
Adam’s work brings a unique focus to the power dynamics and systems that impact conflict and obstacles in our relational spaces and believes that fulfillment, ease, and settledness can only come when we bring awareness and curiosity to them.
They are influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta, contemplative lineage of tantra; Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent; Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism; and many other teachers who center social justice, integrity, and the importance of our responsibility to ourselves and our communities.
“I met Roger in 2020 after seeing his work online and inviting him onto my podcast. The conversation we had was life-changing and transformed the trajectory of my work and the questions I was asking. Since then Roger and I have become close friends. He’s someone I trust completely and love deeply. Roger brings so much heart, wisdom, and shininess wherever he goes and I adore him for that.”
Understanding decolonizing and unsettling
In this class we will be exploring the concepts of decolonizing and unsettling; however, each person’s work may differ.
Decolonization is inherently tied to the land and those bodies who have been impacted either through invasion of the land or the forced servitude to work the land for others. In the lands we now call the United States, decolonization impacts Indigenous people (including Indigenous people of what is now referred to as Latin America and Canada) and Black people (including those who identify as African American).
Unsettling is tied to those who have immigrated to the continent of North America and who benefit from the genocide of the Indigenous people and the indentured servitude of slaves.
Your responsibilities in this class
To take responsibility for your desires and limits.
To notice what you need to show up with vulnerability and authenticity.
To bring awareness to the power dynamics within you and the group.
To be curious, willing to unlearn, and able to hold compassion.
To ask for what you need to feel trust and safety.
To engage with the course content as it applies to your lived experience.
To be present as you are able (physically, emotionally, and energetically).
Applications, registration, and payment info
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
$400 - for folks at or below a living a wage
$500 - can afford occasional treats
$600 - stable income or access to financial support
$700 - stable income and able to put some aside in savings
$800 - have investments and can afford travel/vacations
REGISTER HERE
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
Class is limited to 50 participants
50% of the seats are reserved for BIPOC, trans, and disabled folks
10 seats are reserved for folks indigenous to these lands and connected to their communities in what is now called the United States, Canada, and Latin America
Wheel of Consent® for Queers
This offer includes 16 hours of live facilitated practice, 2.5 hours of pre-recorded lessons, and guided home practices.
Wheel of Consent for Queers
8 Sessions from February 11 - April 8, 2025*
Tuesdays, 9-11 AM PT / 12-2 PM ET
*April 11 class will be replaced with optional community practice
We are inviting participants into the practice of the Wheel of Consent through the lens of our queerness.
bell hooks defined queerness as "about the self that is at odds with everything around it and has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live.”
This class is about being in a community of practice to dream, create, and invent the ways we want to speak, thrive, and live.
We’ll be exploring the personal and interpersonal aspects of the practice of consent while also examining the impact of power and oppression in our lives.
We will draw on wisdom from the Wheel of Consent®, the Right Use of Power Institute, and Process Work through our time together.
About the Wheel of Consent®
The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin.
Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, reshaping how practitioners are trained.
This is a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions.
Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes touch, relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.
The practice is simple, subtle, and profound.
Using the Wheel of Consent®, we develop our capacity to tune into our bodies and our ability to skillfully and gracefully navigate interactions and dynamics in intimate and professional relationships.
You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to navigate consent in all your interactions, including these practical embodied skills:
Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
Navigate power dynamics, trauma, and systemic oppression and their impact on our capacity to access choice and respect boundaries
Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play
Our increased awareness enables more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.
Applied professionally, it makes us more effective practitioners, able to affect human change and healing.
Applied personally, it allows us to access deeper and more meaningful connections.
Pricing
Pricing is based on a sliding scale acknowledging that we each have differing levels of access, capacity, and ability based on the season of your life and where you are living.
Ocean: $650 USD - I have investments and can afford travel, vacations, and self-care
Lake: $500 USD - I can afford some travel/vacations
Waterfall: $375 USD - I am making ends meet and can afford occasional treats
River: $250 USD - I am slightly above a living wage
Glacier: $150 USD - I am at or below a living wage
We encourage folks not located in the US to adjust their payment according to the exchange rate.
Contact Adam for payment plan options.
What participants say
It's helped by inviting me to notice what comes up for me when I notice a desire or a limit - do I judge it? Shame it? Value it? Honor it? Bulldoze it? choose to tend to it later? It is wild how often I violate my own boundaries and limits, and feels powerful to reflect on why and what taught me to do that, and remember I don't have to violate my limits. That in honoring this for myself, i learn to invite others into it as well. - Anonymous
"Life-altering" ~ Clinical Counsellor
“It's truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of" - Chinese Medicine Therapist
The life-changing practice has helped me know that I'm allowed to have desires, wants, needs, and limits. I was raised to believe my worth is tied to what I do for others. I didn't realize what I was missing. I only knew that my relationships weren't as deep as I craved. I couldn't access my authenticity and queerness because I couldn't connect with my true desires. This practice has increased my capacity to listen, feel, and trust my own wants and needs, and to trust that others can communicate theirs. - Sonja
One thing I continually appreciated is that the facilitators reminded us on a regular basis of all the ways we could choose to participate (on/off camera, vocally, in chat, in breakout rooms vs solo, etc). I would have probably forced myself to participate in what I thought was the "right" way all the time, because I would have felt a sense of "should" without those reminders (only because I habitually capitulate to my internal "should" without interrogating it). The repeated reminders themselves also helped to reinforce the notion of choice for me, even outside of class. - Robin
"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others." - Teacher
"Deeply grateful for the workshop last weekend. It has been sitting with me all week. The content and my experiences have made their way into many conversations since...I feel very inspired by my experience!" - Acupuncturist
“Deep gratitude. This was epic for me on so many levels. Feeling a profound shift.” - Plant Medicine Guide
“This was transformative for me in many ways.” - Sexual Health Educator
Training Guidelines
How we ask that you engage with each other:
Confidentiality — outside the practices and the group, share only your own experience and learnings. We ask that you attend the sessions from a quiet space and use headphones if anyone is in the same room as you. No recording or screenshots of each other.
Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
Share with intention, using "I" statements. Listen with attention.
Use the names and pronouns people request and honor the lived experience of others in the group. Notice and set aside assumptions about people's identities and experiences (e.g. gender, race, sexuality, etc.).
Stay within the stated limits of each practice. The workshop is clothed. We will not state wants for, or make requests or offers for unclothed or genital during exercises. There will be options to engage in practices with other participants and it is not required.
What we invite for your own experience
Invite beginner’s mind — everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice yourself; take what works for you and leave the rest.
Do not do anything you do not want to do.
Participation can look many ways and you choose how you want to participate — actively join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, and change your mind at any time. You get the full value from the workshop however you choose to participate.
Self-care and self-regulation — take care of your needs (for water, rest, movement, etc.)
Accessibility
Closed captions are available during the sessions
All practices are offered with adaptation options for ability, sensory, neuroprocessing and communication preferences/needs
Recordings (speaker view) and transcriptions are provided to participants up to two months after class
We ask that you have your camera on for the introductions in the first session. After that, you may turn your camera off whenever it supports your participation.
Acknowledgments About Racialization, Neurodivergence, Disabilities
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safe enough space for learning for everyone. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. As facilitators and humans, Helena and Adam are committed to serving you as best as possible. Please email Helena to let us know your questions or accessibility needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.
Refund policy
If you are unable to attend, you may choose to have your payment refunded minus an administration fee, according to the following schedule:
More than 30 days before the event: Full refund, less $30 admin fee
15-30 days before the event: 50% refund, or, if you can fill your spot with someone else, a full refund
Less than 15 days before the event: No refunds, or unless you/we can fill your spot with someone else*
In cases of illness or family emergency, we will endeavor to refund your full tuition less any unrecoverable costs, or transfer to a future offering.
About the facilitators
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® and has been facilitating Wheel practices since 2016.
Helena is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness that deepens our capacity to facilitate healing. Her facilitation is deeply trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive rights, attending births, deaths, and entheogenic session, and leading queer-centric erotic healing events. She has brought the Wheel of Consent® in a wide range of settings and trains facilitators in trauma-responsive facilitation skills.
Adam Nicholson (they/them) is a coach, mentor, guide, and facilitator based in Clarksville, TN. Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of how we can navigate relationships with more awareness of consent, power, and integrity. Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other teachers. Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
Impact of Power in Relationships (free)
Impact of Power in Relationships
In all of our relationships power differentials are impacting the ways we step closer to one another.
Power is not inherently good or bad, but if we do not bring awareness to it, it often leads to intense conflict, rupture, hurt, and harm.
In this free 60-minute class, we will
Look at different forms of power and how they manifest in our relationships
Be in embodied practice to better understand where we each hold an abundance of power or a lack of power
Be in discussion about ways we want to bring clarity to the power in our selves and relationships
Discuss ways to deepen a practice that can help us better understand the wily ways power shows up in relationships
Click here to register. Please be sure to select the correct date as each month we'll be exploring different aspects of the relational lenses.
The Relational Lenses Series is designed to introduce you to several foundational pieces that show up consistently in relationships. These pieces come from years of practice and study that incorporate teachings and learnings on conflict, power, consent, and relational skill building.
Nov 21, 2024 - Navigating Hurt & Harm
Dec 19, 2024 - The Practice of the Wheel of Consent®
Jan 16, 2025 - Skills for Authentic Connection
Feb 20, 2025 - The Impact of Power in Relationships
The Practice of The Wheel of Consent® (free)
The Practice of The Wheel of Consent®
The Wheel of Consent® is a revolutionary tool that we use to come back to our bodies, our empowerment, our desires, and our limits.
It offers us an opportunity to unravel and question the unhealthy ways we have been socialized to be in relationships.
It provides a practice for us to see more clearly what we want to create for ourselves.
In this free 60-minute class, we will
Look at the unhelpful, and often harmful, ways we have been socialized to think about giving, receiving, desires, and limits
Be in embodied practice to better understand where we are outside of our own integrity
Talk about how a lack of clarity in giving and receiving keeps us stuck in relationships we don’t want
Discuss ways to deepen a practice that brings us back into our own version of integrity
Click here to register. Please be sure to select the correct date as each month we'll be exploring different aspects of the relational lenses.
The Relational Lenses Series is designed to introduce you to several foundational pieces that show up consistently in relationships. These pieces come from years of practice and study that incorporate teachings and learnings on conflict, power, consent, and relational skill building.
Nov 21, 2024 - Navigating Hurt & Harm
Dec 19, 2024 - The Practice of the Wheel of Consent®
Jan 16, 2025 - Skills for Authentic Connection
Feb 20, 2025 - The Impact of Power in Relationships
Navigating Hurt & Harm (free)
Navigating Hurt & Harm
In this free 60-minute class (register here), we will
Get clear on the distinctions between and the definitions of hurt, harm, and abuse
Be in embodied practice to better understand our own internal wisdom and signals
Talk about how a lack of clarity in hurt and harm can keep us stuck as victims and perpetrators
Discuss ways to break out of patterns of hurt and harm
Hurt and harm are part of the human experience. It is part of every relationship and we cannot avoid it.
As we gain a deeper understanding of and more dexterity around hurt & harm, we can allow ourselves to be in without shame or avoidance.
Click here to register. Please select the correct date as each month offers different aspects of the relational lenses.
The Relational Lenses Series is designed to introduce you to several foundational pieces that show up consistently in relationships. These pieces come from years of practice and study that incorporate teachings and learnings on conflict, power, consent, and relational skill building.
Nov 21, 2024 - Navigating Hurt & Harm
Dec 19, 2024 - The Practice of the Wheel of Consent®
Jan 16, 2025 - Skills for Authentic Connection
Feb 20, 2025 - The Impact of Power in Relationships
Finding Peace with Trump (free)
This is a contemplative practice to consider the conflict that resides in our inner being and how it is projected through the lens of Donald Trump.
The intention of this practice is to bring more peace, settledness, and calm into an election season that is filled with dysregulation.
This is a space to think about what we can do for ourselves, our communities, and loved ones.
This is a space to examine how to step more fully into your power, truth, and integrity.
You’ll be invited to explore uncomfortable edges in yourself, your thoughts, and your emotions.
And you’ll have an opportunity to share, be seen, and witness others as we all grapple with questions of responsibility, love, compassion, and complicity.
THIS IS A FREE EVENT.
Reserve your spot here: https://adamnicholson.as.me/finding-peace-with-trump
What’s going to happen
After gathering, I’ll offer a brief introduction to what’s going to happen and then we’ll begin.
In this practice, I will be reading real quotes from Donald Trump. And then I’ll offer what Byron Katie calls “turnarounds” in which you’ll be invited to find other layers of truth within yourself.
The invitation is to notice your body, thoughts, and emotions and allow all of it to be present in the complicated ways that it often is.
After the practice, we’ll move into a debrief depending on time.
I’ve offered this in the past and it was edgy, challenging, and ultimately, very liberating.
Reserve your spot here (FREE): https://adamnicholson.as.me/finding-peace-with-trump
Why Donald Trump?
I like to do this practice with Donald Trump because he is a caricature, avatar, and teacher for so many parts of ourselves.
Trump embodies many of the aspects myself that I have worked hard to change.
He offers a pristine mirror for me to look at and consider how I am also holding some of these same qualities.
To prepare for this event
Be in a quiet space that will allow you to go inward without disruption
Schedule at least 30 minutes of alone time after the event. Emotions are likely to flare and it can be disorienting to yourself and those around you if you reenter without time to integrate and process.
Come with a journal or paper to write or draw on.
Have a stable internet connection.
Reserve your spot here (FREE): https://adamnicholson.as.me/finding-peace-with-trump
Wheel of Consent for Queers
This offer includes 10.5 hours of live facilitated practice and guided home practices and short videos between sessions.
Max 20 participants, Min 8
Dates: Oct 22, 29 and Nov 5, 12, 19, 26
Hours: Tuesdays 9-11 AM Pacific, 12-2 PM Eastern
Check your local time zone here: https://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/converter.html
We share brief instructional videos, optional home practice, and resources between sessions.
About the course
This is an affinity space, welcoming participants who identify as LGBTQAIT2S+.
The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin. Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, reshaping how practitioners are trained.
This is a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions. Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes touch, relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.
The practice is simple, subtle, and profound.
Using the Wheel of Consent®, we develop our capacity to tune into our bodies and our ability to skillfully and gracefully navigate interactions and dynamics in intimate and professional relationships.
You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to navigate consent in all your interactions, including these practical embodied skills:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Navigate power dynamics, trauma, and systemic oppression and their impact on our capacity to access choice and respect boundaries
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play
Our increased awareness enables more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.
Applied professionally, it makes us more effective practitioners, able to affect human change and healing.
Applied personally, it allows us to access deeper and more meaningful connections.
Sliding Scale Tickets (includes the 10.5 hours of facilitated practices, home practices, and videos)
Ocean: $625 USD + GST (have investments, can afford travel/vacations)
Lake: $525 USD + GST (stable income or access to financial support)
Pond: $425 USD + GST (can afford occasional treats)
Puddle: $250 USD + GST (closer to living wage)
Contact Helena for payment plan options.
What participants say
"Life-altering" ~ Clinical Counsellor
“It's truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of" ~ Chinese Medicine Therapist
"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others." ~ Teacher
"Deeply grateful for the workshop last weekend. It has been sitting with me all week. The content and my experiences have made their way into many conversations since...I feel very inspired by my experience!" ~ Acupuncturist
“Deep gratitude. This was epic for me on so many levels. Feeling a profound shift.” ~ Plant Medicine Guide
“This was transformative for me in many ways.” ~ Sexual Health Educator
Training Guidelines
How we ask that you engage with each other:
1. Confidentiality — outside the practices and the group, share only your own experience and learnings. We ask that you attend the sessions from a quiet space and use headphones if anyone is in the same room as you. No recording or screenshots of each other.
2. Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.
3. Share with intention, using "I" statements. Listen with attention.
4. Use the names and pronouns people request and honor the lived experience of others in the group. Notice and set aside assumptions about people's identities and experiences (e.g. gender, race, sexuality, etc.).
5. Stay within the stated limits of each practice. The workshop is clothed. We will not state wants for, or make requests or offers for unclothed or genital during exercises. There will be options to engage in practices with other participants and it is not required.
What we invite for your own experience:
1. Invite beginner’s mind — everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice yourself; take what works for you and leave the rest.
2. Do not do anything you do not want to do.
3. Participation can look many ways and you choose how you want to participate — actively join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, and change your mind at any time. You get the full value from the workshop however you choose to participate.
4. Self-care and self-regulation — take care of your needs (for water, rest, movement, etc.)
Accessibility
໑ Closed captions are available during the sessions
໑ All sessions are recorded in speaker view and available to attendees for 2 months after the last session
໑ We ask that you have your camera on for the introductions in the first session. After that, you may turn your camera off whenever it supports your participation.
Acknowledgments About Racialization, Neurodivergence, Disabilities
The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safe enough space for learning for everyone. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. As a facilitators and humans, Helena and Adam committed to serving you as best as possible. Please email Helena to let us know your questions or accessibility needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.
Refund policy
If you are unable to attend, you may choose to have your payment refunded minus an administration fee, according to the following schedule:
More than 30 days before the event: Full refund, less $30 admin fee
15-30 days before the event: 50% refund, or, if you can fill your spot with someone else, a full refund
Less than 15 days before the event: No refunds, or unless you/we can fill your spot with someone else*
*In cases of illness or family emergency, we will endeavor to refund your full tuition less any unrecoverable costs, or transfer to a future offering.
About the facilitators
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® and has been facilitating Wheel practices since 2016.
Helena is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness that deepens our capacity to facilitate healing. Her facilitation is deeply trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive rights, attending births, deaths, and entheogenic session, and leading queer-centric erotic healing events. She has brought the Wheel of Consent® in a wide range of settings and trains facilitators in trauma-responsive facilitation skills.
Adam Bee (they/them) is a coach, mentor, guide, and facilitator based in Clarksville, TN. Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of how we can navigate relationships with more awareness of consent, power, and integrity. Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other teachers. Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
6 Agreements for Polyam, nm, and expanded Relationships
Polyamorous, non-monogamous, and expansive relationship constellations can be deeply fulfilling.
And they can also hold challenging dynamics at the personal and group levels.
As a culture, we don’t have many models to look toward.
And generally speaking, we aren’t taught how to co-create and maintain agreements.
In this 6-week course, we are going to look at six agreements you can use as a framework for your polyam, non-monogamous, and expanded relationships.
Each week we dive deep into one agreement and give you the space to hone and refine your unique desires and limits.
These agreements provide a framework through which we can be in consent and integrity – as both require more than simply asking for permission.
By bringing a deeper awareness to these agreements, you will gain clarity and groundedness for what you need & want to be in love-centered, expansive, and safe-enough relationships.
6 Agreements for Polyam, NM, and Expanded Relationships
Wednesdays, 12 PM ET - 1:30 PM ET
August 14 - September 18, 2024
on Zoom (recordings available)
APPLY TODAY
This class is great for folks who want…
More clarity around what you need to feel safe enough in an expanded relationship
Improved communication for how you ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want
More ease in navigating layered and complex relational dynamics
Tools to notice what you want and don’t want
Greater self-awareness in your relationships
More spaciousness to grow and explore in your relationships
Should I do this solo or with my partner(s)?
This class is for folks who are in any relationship constellation.
If you’re curious about creating more expanded relationships or already in one but looking to make things easier, better, and more fulfilling – this class is for you.
Whether you do it together or solo is up to you. This class will give you a shared language from which you can come together in new ways.
Note that each registration is personal. In the class, we will be focusing on our individual desires and limits around agreements. From there, you will be able to bring this new awareness and framework into all your relational spaces and containers.
About Adam Bee
Adam (they/them) is a coach, healer, and facilitator based in NYC.
Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of desire, consent, power, integrity, relationships, sex, and how to navigate it all with more ease.
Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other spiritual and energetic teachers.
Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
About Helena
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a guide and facilitator.
She is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness and our capacity to connect authentically.
Her facilitation is trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive health, attending births, deaths, and entheogenic healing session, and leading queer erotic rituals.
Her work is informed by Vajaryana Buddhism, the Wheel of Consent, Process Work, Somatic Abolitionism, Holistic Peer Counseling, and Landmark. She’s grateful for her teachers Betty Martin, Resmaa Menaken, Carlin Quinn, Daniel Siegel, Arnold Mindell, Dawn Menken, Dr. Carie Bradshaw, Reggie Ray, and many more.
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
For us, agreements are the intentions we set for how we want to show up and be present. These are not rules, though rules often come from these agreements.
You will empower yourself to redefine relationships on your own terms, breaking free from the traditional confines that have many of us trapped.
This class is led and created through a trauma-informed lens that centers and celebrates choice, bodily autonomy, changing desires & limits, and the fluidity of our selves, identities, and expressions.
We are intentionally stepping back from the binary expressions and default expectations that are thrust upon many of us in relationships.
Taking responsibility for the agreements you need and want is life-changing and liberating. It requires that we question, unravel, and untether ourselves from the systems of dominance that have dictated our relational structures and frameworks.
This is an opportunity to create something new for yourself. Something better and more fulfilling.
Each week we will explore one of the agreements and how it shows up in our lives pertaining to our group's theme.
This is an emergent process so there is not a fixed agenda, how we flow depends on the energy and curiosities of the group. Within that, we will utilize fishbowl mentoring, teachings, Q&As, breakouts, listening turns, and somatic experiments.
Each week we will bring extended focus onto one of the agreements with an understanding that they are all layered and interconnected. They each present differently in each of us and in each of our relationships.
Week 1 – Vulnerability & Authenticity
Week 2 – Responsibility
Week 3 – Dynamics & Power
Week 4 – Curiosity, Unlearning, and Compassion
Week 5 – Trust
Week 6 – Presence
This group is a practice in presence, values, and love. It is an emergent embodiment of the agreements and how to navigate them with more ease.
We ask you to bring your full self to this class – physically, emotionally, and energetically. That means your vulnerabilities, fears, feelings of shame, desires, and pleasure. You always get to choose how you step in and out of participation and we will do our best to create a space that is safe enough, welcoming, and settled for all bodies and expressions.
6 Agreements and the Wheel of Consent
The 6 Agreements along with Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent are complementary to one another.
The Wheel of Consent is a practice for noticing wants and limits. The 6 Agreements act as the foundation upon which we can drop into that practice with integrity and more ease.
Consent can be outside of integrity (e.g., many jobs, healthcare, landlord/tenant contracts, etc.). And agreements become challenging without consent.
The 6 Agreements we’re working through offer frames and perspectives through which you can explore your relationships. It may help you discern whether and how you may wish to move towards deeper intimacy and relatedness with someone.
Go here to learn more about the Wheel of Consent and offerings near you.
YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
Confidentiality – to hold the group and your breakout partner(s) in confidence and to only speak about your own experiences.
Choice – to step forward and backward in the ways that are best for you. We want you to take responsibility for how you choose to participate. We want you to ask for what you want so that you can feel safe enough and be present.
Presence – to be present for yourself in the ways that are most useful for you and to be present for the group as you are willing and able.
Applications, REGISTRATION, and PAYMENT
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
Base tuition: $400
Sliding scale: $200 - $600
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
This class is limited to 20 participants.
Healing from Christian Purity Culture — A Free Webinar
In this free webinar, we’ll look at…
the impact of Christianity and purity culture on our desires
how it influences our limits for what we’re willing to give
how binary categorizations of sin make it challenging to navigate real integrity
a new framework through which you can look at your desires and limits that allow you to hold on to your spiritual and religious values in a more expansive and loving way
Saturday, May 25
11:00 AM - 11:30 AM ET
Register here to get the Zoom link and recording
Christianity has impacted all of us in Western society. Whether you are/were an avid church-goer or not, the rules of Christianity can be found everywhere.
We have all been programmed to believe that certain types of desires and limits are right, and others are wrong.
This can severely limit how we show up in our lives.
It limits what we ask for and say no to.
It limits our relationships.
It limits our imaginations for something better.
Join us for this free 30-min webinar where we’ll go into some of these questions while offering some steps you can take right now to navigate out of it.
Fear of Rejection - Free Webinar
In this free webinar, we’ll take a look at…
how the fear of rejection stops us from asking for what we want
why it shows up
and how we can move beyond it so we can begin asking for what we want in our relationships
Thursday, May 16
12:00 - 12:30 PM ET
Register here to get the Zoom link and recording
The fear of rejection is consistently the number one reason I hear for why folks don’t ask for what they want.
It shows up in almost all of our relationships and in many different ways.
And, I know that when we can begin to develop skills to navigate it, pleasure and fulfillment become a lot more accessible.
If you’re interested in joining live or receiving the recording, register below.
Afraid to ask for what you want? - a free webinar
In this free webinar, we’re going to take a closer look into why we are afraid to ask for what we want. We’ll look at…
why we feel selfish
why we get afraid the person will leave if we center our desires
experiences when someone got mad at us for asking for what we wanted
and, we’ll explore three things you can start doing now to change this
Thursday, April 18
12:00 - 12:30 PM ET
Sign up to get the Zoom link
Asking for what we want is a necessary component of any healthy and fulfilling relationship.
And, it’s hard. We’re not taught how to do it. We’re taught to be quiet, give, be humble.
The first agreement in my 6 Agreements is Responsibility. We must learn to take responsbility for our desires and in order to do that we have to confront the fear we feel in asking for what we want.
This practice is life changing —because to get better at asking for what we want also impacts our ability to be vulnerable, to hear other peoples desires, and be in a more expansive vibration.
This webinar is a small part of a larger series on my 6 agreements. If you’re interested in learning more about that, check out the upcoming course, 6 Agreements for Relationships, starting March 20.
This practice, as is all of my work, is influenced and grounded in anti-oppression, decolonial, anti-capitalist teachings. Agreements around saying no, asking for what we want, being in consent & integrity – they do not work under the dominant culture systems and we must learn to do relationships differently.
6 Agreements for Relationships
What are the agreements in your relationships? With partners, family, friends… yourself?
Are they unspoken or assumed?
Were they created at the beginning and never revisited? Do you create them like patchwork as conflicts or challenges arise?
We all have different ways of navigating agreements, but many of us were never taught how to talk about them, ask for them, or negotiate them.
In this 6-week class, we’re offering a space for you to re-imagine the agreements you want to hold for yourself in your relationships.
We are inviting you to step deeper into the desires of what you want your relationships to be.
6 Agreements for Relationships
Wednesdays at 12 PM ET
March 20 - April 24, 2024
on Zoom (recordings available)
APPLY TODAY
For us, agreements are the intentions we set for how we want to show up and be present. These are not rules, though rules often come from these agreements.
You will empower yourself to redefine relationships on your own terms, breaking free from the traditional confines that have many of us trapped.
This class is led and created through a trauma-informed lens that centers and celebrates choice, bodily autonomy, changing desires & limits, and the fluidity of our selves, identities, and expressions.
We are intentionally stepping back from the binary expressions and default expectations that are thrust upon many of us in relationships.
Taking responsibility for the agreements you need and want is life-changing and liberating. It requires that we question, unravel, and untether ourselves from the systems of dominance that have dictated our relational structures and frameworks.
This is an opportunity to create something new for yourself. Something better and more fulfilling.
This class is great for folks who want…
improved communication for how you ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want
tools to build healthier and more fulfilling relationships
relationships to be easier (this can include romantic partners, family, friends, coworkers, or yourself)
greater self-awareness in relationships
to feel less constrained in your relationships
This group is a practice in presence, values, and love. It is an emergent embodiment of the agreements and how to navigate them with more ease.
We ask you to bring your full self to this class – physically, emotionally, and energetically. That means your vulnerabilities, fears, feelings of shame, desires, and pleasure. You always get to choose how you step in and out of participation and we will do our best to create a space that is safe enough, welcoming, and settled for all bodies and expressions.
Should I do this solo or with my partner(s)?
Whether you do it together or solo is up to you. We welcome all relationship constellations. This class will give you a shared language from which you can come together in new ways. Whether you attend solo or with your partner(s) is up to you. Note that each registration is personal. In the class, we will be focusing on our individual desires and limits around agreements. From there, you will be able to bring this new awareness and framework into all your relational spaces and containers.
About Adam Bee
Adam is a mentor, guide, and facilitator based in NYC.
Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of desire, consent, power, integrity, relationships, sex, and how to navigate it all with more ease.
Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other spiritual and energetic teachers.
Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
About Helena
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a guide and facilitator.
She is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness and our capacity to connect authentically.
Her facilitation is trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles, practicing and teaching holistic peer counseling, facilitating conflict processes, attending births and deaths, and leading erotic healing and entheogenic rituals.
Her work is primarily informed by Vajaryana Buddhism, the Wheel of Consent, Process Work, Somatic Abolitionism, Holsitic Peer Counseling, and Landmark. She’s grateful for her teachers Teri Ciacchi, Betty Martin, Resmaa Menaken, Arnold Mindell, Reggie Ray, and many more.
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
Each week we will explore one of the agreements and how it shows up in our lives pertaining to our group's theme.
This is an emergent process so there is not a set agenda, how we flow depends on the energy and curiosities of the group. Within that, we will utilize fishbowl mentoring, teachings, Q&As, breakouts, listening turns, and somatic experiments.
Each week we will bring extended focus onto one of the agreements with an understanding that they are all layered and interconnected. They each present differently in each of us and in each of our relationships.
Week 1 – Responsibility
Week 2 – Consent
Week 3 – Curiosity
Week 4 – Dynamics
Week 5 – Trust
Week 6 – Presence
YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
To be present. Everyone’s ability to be present is different and our invitation is that you do your best to choose to be with us. That might mean listening to recordings, leaving early, or being there in real-time. We do ask that you not multitask while you are with us and that you in a private space where sharing and listening with vulnerability is more possible.
To be present out of class. There will be contemplations and inquiries for you to consider outside of class.
To be vulnerable. Any exploration of desire requires vulnerability and when we talk about desires in the realm of physical intimacy, the challenges of living in a society dominated by purity culture will surface.
To be honest. Honesty is critical for trust and we’re asking each of you to be radically honest with yourself.
To hold the group in confidence. We are inviting you into a deeply vulnerable place of community and healing. That is hard to do if we cannot hold each other in confidence.
To ask permission before taking. This includes the way we take time, space, and energy. It is related to the agreement of consent and we hold that value tightly.
Applications, REGISTRATION, and PAYMENT
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
Base tuition: $400
Sliding scale: $200 - $600
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
This class is limited to 20 participants.
Can't Say No? - a free webinar
In this free webinar, we’re going to take a closer look into…
why we can’t say no
what it does to our relationships
three practices you can do to start to change this
Wednesday, February 21
12:00 - 12:30 PM ET
Sign up to get the Zoom link
The ability to say no is central to any fulfilling and healthy relationship.
And, it is one of the most challenging parts of any relationship. Most of us are never trained on how to do it — many of us don’t even think it’s possible (to be fair, in some relationships, it isn’t).
But if we are going to take responsibility for our relationships to ourselves and others, we must get better at saying no.
This webinar is a small part of a larger series on my 6 agreements. If you’re interested in learning more about that, check out the upcoming course, 6 Agreements for Relationships, starting March 20.
This practice, as is all of my work, is influenced and grounded in anti-oppression, decolonial, anti-capitalist teachings. Agreements around saying no, asking for what we want, being in consent & integrity – they do not work under the dominant culture systems and we must learn to do relationships differently.
6 Agreements for Dating and Dating Apps
Dating, hookups, and dating apps send many of us into emotional tailspins… “Is this it? Should I settle? “Am I destined to be alone?”
So maybe we pick up the speed, but eventually we get worn out, our hope fades, and we get off the treadmill with our alone-ness facing us in the mirror.
It doesn’t have to be that way. It can be different. Dating and connection can be easier, more joy-filled, and much more full of pleasure.
In this six-week course, 6 Agreements for Dating and Dating Apps, led by Adam Bee and Robyn Dalzen, we will take a deep dive into how you can fundamentally change the ways you show up for yourself.
This process will bring clarity to
what you want in dating
who you want to be dating
what you’re no longer going to tolerate (and how to notice it before you’re in it)
how you’re going to ask people to step closer to you
ease in saying no to the folks you don’t want to spend time with.
Each week we will explore one of the six agreements through somatic practices, sharing, reflections, and fishbowl exercises.
These six agreements are consistent across all relationships — with others and with ourselves — and in this course we will specifically look at how they show up in dating.
Applying these 6 agreements can be life-changing. They are also affirming, reminding us of who we truly are and how we’re going to show up in this work.
6 Agreements for Dating and Dating Apps
Thursdays at 11:30 AM - 1:00 PM ET
Jan 18 - Feb 22, 2024
on Zoom
Bringing greater awareness to these agreements helps us hone and refine our desires and how we want to show up for ourselves.
They help us understand our limits and boundaries.
They help us feel more settled and grounded in our desires.
But most of all, they help us learn how to create relationships where we get to show up fully, ask for what we want, and be present in our bodies.
This group is a practice in presence, values, and love. It is an emergent embodiment of the agreements and how to navigate them with more ease.
I am asking all participants to bring their full selves to this class – physically, emotionally, energetically. That means your vulnerabilities, fears, feelings of shame, desires, and pleasure.
About Adam Bee
Adam is a mentor, guide, and facilitator based in NYC.
Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of desire, consent, power, integrity, relationships, sex, and how to navigate it all with more ease.
Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other spiritual and energetic teachers.
Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
About Robyn Dalzen
Robyn’s work is at the intersection of mindfulness, consent, embodiment, and sexuality.
As a somatic coach and facilitator, she is an expert at guiding you to bring awareness to what you want in your life and to communicate those desires.
Robyn has been working in this space since 2016 and has had the opportunity to guide hundreds of people through a process of self-discovery in workshops, private sessions, and at Tantra and sexuality festivals across North America, Europe, and Australia.
Robyn is grateful for the influence of her teachers — sensual embodiment leaders Regena Thomashauer, creator of The School of Womanly Arts, and Sheila Kelley, creator of S Factor, as well as the Grand Dame of Consent and creator of the Wheel of Consent, Dr. Betty Martin.
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
Each week we will explore one of the agreements and how it shows up in our lives pertaining to our group's theme.
This is an emergent process so there is not a set agenda, how we flow depends on the energy and curiosities of the group. Within that, we will utilize fishbowl mentoring, teachings, Q&As, breakouts, listening turns, and somatic experiments.
Each week we will bring extended focus onto one of the agreements with an understanding that they are all layered and interconnected. They each present differently in each of us and in each of our relationships.
Week 1 – Responsibility
Week 2 – Consent
Week 3 – Curiosity
Week 4 – Dynamics
Week 5 – Trust
Week 6 – Presence
In addition to our six 90-minute group sessions, you’ll get…
A 30-minute 1-1 session with Adam
Online workbook questions for inquiry
YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
To be present in class. I’m asking each participant to do their best to be physically present for each class. Our work will be interactive and depends on you being there. And, we trust you’ll take care of yourself as you know how.
To be present out of class. There will be contemplations and inquiries for you to consider outside of class.
To be vulnerable. Any exploration of desire requires vulnerability and when we talk about desires in the realm of physical intimacy, the challenges of living in a society dominated by purity culture will surface.
To be honest. Honesty is critical for trust and I’m asking each of you to be radically honest with yourself.
To hold the group in confidence. I am inviting you into a deeply vulnerable place of community and healing. That is hard to do if we cannot hold each other in confidence.
To ask permission before taking. This includes the way we take time, space, and energy. It is related to the agreement of consent and we hold that value tightly.
Applications, REGISTRATION, and PAYMENT
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While I do my best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – I know I cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
Base tuition: $400
Sliding scale: $200 - $700
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
This class is limited to 20 participants.
Multiple Realms of Pleasure
Transform, deepen, and expand your relationship to receiving pleasure
Wednesdays at 7 PM ET
Starting June 28 for 5 weeks | Zoom
For thousands of years the sages, gurus, and teachers have written about the multiple realms of consciousness.
Seemingly every spiritual tradition offers teachings about our existence at the physical, subtle, subtler, and subtlest planes.
But so many of us are disconnected and distracted. (For capitalism to work, we have to be.)
We remain unaware of the pleasures available to us beyond the surface — keeping us unfilled and in a perpetual cycle of seeking and chasing.
Because we know there’s more. We can feel it and sense it.
But it is impossible to know what we want, ask for what want, and receive what we want when we are so disconnected from these deeper planes of consciousness.
What if you could begin a practice of being more deeply and keenly aware of the pleasure in your life as it exists at the subtler levels of consciousness?
What’s going to happen?
In this 5-week course, we are going to explore the vast terrain of pleasure that is present in our bodies — from the surface to the depths.
You will get to experience and embody a different relationship to pleasure as it exists in you — from your physical body to the more subtle reaches of your being.
This is a space that will invite embodied spiritual, energetic, and consent practices.
We will be using the five gross elements as a map on our journey. We will examine how these elements show up for you in your physical body, emotional body, and energetic body.
The power and medicine of these elements is always present in us and we can find support and pleasure in a relationship that is deepened and full of integrity.
+ Week 1 (June 28) — Earth
+ Week 2 (July 5) — Water
+ Week 3 (July 12) — Fire
+ Week 4 (July 19) — Air
+ Week 5 (July 26) — Space
Each class will be 90 min, with a mixture of guided energetic work, teaching, and intentional sharing. We will look at the ways each of these elements are present in our lives, bodies, and pleasure — from the surface to the subtlest planes of our consciousness.
Facilitated and held by Adam Bee
This class is led by Adam Bee, an intuitive and coach whose work focuses on the intersections of pleasure, power, desire, consent, and the unobserved challenges that hold us back from creating & maintaining fulfilling lives and relationships.
This course is influenced by the many teachers they have been blessed to learn with including, Paul Muller Ortega, Resmaa Menakem, Arabella Champaq, Mark Fleming, Karen Hager, and many others.
Pricing and registration
Payment is based on a sliding scale to acknowledge that we all have different access to resources. I also want to bring awareness to the historical and persistent disparities that certain bodies, expressions, and identities have in gaining access to those resources.
It is also important to name that intentionally exploited and traditionally marginalized people have to do more work to show up and be present in group spaces like this.
Please pay what you can afford and if you are someone who benefits from the systems of dominance (white, cis-gendered, non-disabled), please consider paying more to support those who do not have the same access to resources. Resource distribution is an important part of community and it helps us come together in a more care-filled way.
Base tuition is $350. Please pay what you can afford based on a sliding scale of $150-$750.
All bodies are welcome
This is a space that seeks to tear down the dominant culture of oppression and we invite folks to be present who are willing to be curious about how that shows up in their own bodies.
There will be shared agreements that everyone will need to consent to in order to be present.
Grief and the Journey of Self-Discovery
Transform your capacity to hold the grief & loneliness that come when you grow, expand, and say goodbye to what no longer serves you
5 sessions
every other Wednesday, 7 PM - 8:30 PM ET
starts April 5, 2023
When we embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth, loss becomes a central part of our lives.
When we learn more about ourselves, our desires change, our limits change – and our relationships change.
In order to grow, we must say goodbye to people, places, habits, and comfort. We must step into new relationships when existing ones no longer resonate with our new vibration.
Oftentimes, the grief that comes with those decisions is debilitating. Not only that, the fear of losing someone or something can impede our next steps.
And in addition to grieving the past and what we lost, we suddenly find ourselves in new territories and terrains. We often feel alone, without peers, without friends, without anyone who can see us or hold us.
If we are unable to hold the discomfort and pain of this loneliness, we will often step backward.
We will stop growing because we don’t have the capacity to hold the grief and loneliness.
This five-session course is an offering for you to increase your capacity to hold grief and loneliness.
It is an opportunity to bring awareness, intention, love, and compassion to these feelings that we so often ignore.
It is a space to be in community with others asking similar questions about relationships, spiritual deepening, and personal growth.
What’s going to happen
This class will include a mixture of guided embodied experiments, group discussions, breakouts for intentional witnessing and sharing, meditations, and space for reflection.
We will be using consent-forward practices to navigate these deep waters – consent with yourself, other participants, and the collective. You never have to do anything you don’t want to. You can always take breaks, rest, or step back when needed.
Through this group, you will learn what it means to bring a more intentional approach to the grief that comes with spiritual deepening and personal growth.
And, this will be an emergent process. We will follow the energies that arise within the group, follow them, and care for them.
Agenda
Session 1 (April 5) – Setting the container - a conversation on agreements, requests, and power dynamics. We’ll also discuss: What is your relationship to grief and personal growth? Are you within or outside of integrity in this relationship?
Session 2 (April 19) – The loneliness of personal and spiritual growth. Who have you lost along the way? How have you grieved them?
Session 3 (May 3) – What would it be like to separate the grief from the story? What would it be like to become friendly with the vibration of grief? To see it, hold it, and be a part of it?
Session 4 (May 17) – A grief ritual.
Session 5 (May 31) – How are grief and loneliness holding you back from moving forward? What do you want to receive more of? What would make it better for you?
Logistics
Wednesdays, 7 PM - 8:30 PM ET
on Zoom
Recordings will be available for folks who cannot attend live, but we ask that you make a commitment to not miss no more than one class.
Facilitated by Adam Bee
I am a space holder, facilitator, guide, and coach. I do this work because I believe in it. It has changed my life and the world around me.
My spiritual and personal development journey started about 20 years ago. In that time I have witnessed an immense amount of grief, loneliness, joy, and transformation.
I believe that our capacity for growth is correlated to our capacity to hold grief.
I have led many clients and groups through journeys of grief – because it is always there. It is always waiting for us.
I love working in grief. Its vibration is one I have come to cherish and hold sacred. It’s not always pleasant, but it is always awe-inspiring.
This class is a culmination of many years of experiments, coaching, and guidance with clients and groups as well as learnings from my own teachers and guides.
You can find out more about me here.
Supported by Sól Gonzalez
Sól (they/them) is a Venezuelan-American community organizer, Certified Healing, Justice and Liberation life coach, space and team facilitator, culture worker, and lifelong grief apprentice. They relate to life, grief, love, and justice with reverence, curiosity, and devotion.
Sól collaborates with people wanting to cultivate more leadership, intention, compassion, and alignment in their lives and ecosystems. With a focus on transformation, right relationship with self / the land / each other / the unseen, and the embodied practice of liberation, Sól and their creative partners create courageous 1-1 and collective spaces that cultivate loving awareness and values-aligned embodied change.
Registration and costs
Payment is based on a sliding scale to acknowledge that we all have different access to resources. I also want to bring awareness to the historical and persistent disparities that certain bodies, expressions, and identities have in gaining access to those resources.
It is also important to name that intentionally exploited and traditionally marginalized people have to do more work to show up and be present in group spaces like this.
Please pay what you can afford and if you are someone who benefits from the systems of dominance (white, cis-gendered, non-disabled), please consider paying more to support those who do not have the same access to resources. Resource distribution is an important part of community and it helps us come together in a more care-filled way.
Base tuition is $350. Please pay what you can afford based on a sliding scale of $150-$550
(Payment plans are available.)
Register with a one-time payment
Embodied Community (online, $10)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
Embodied Community (online, $10)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
Sensual Sanctuary - for women, femmes, trans, and non-binary folks
A space to explore intimacy, connection, touch, and pleasure with women, femmes, trans, and non-binary folks.
Is it hard for you to ask for things in bed?
Are you a people pleaser who has trouble saying no?
Do you find it challenging to even know what you want from certain people?
Do you ever have a hard time answering the question, "what do you want?"
In this event facilitated by Adam Bee (https://onpowerpleasure.com) and supported and assisted with cy x, you will get to explore and expand the ways you create emotional and physical connections with others.
Adam Bee | they
cy x | they
We’ll move through embodied experiments that give you space to practice
asking for what you want,
noticing your limits in what you give, and
being present to receive the pleasure you’re being given.
We will be using the work of Betty Martin and the Wheel of Consent as a framework for our experiments. We will be using the Three-Minute Game asking to receive and making offers to give for three minutes at a time. And this will be an emergent process that follows the energy of the group, so more things will likely arise.
You always have a choice in how you participate and how you take care of yourself. Your no is welcome and invited!
🎟️ Registration & tickets at https://onpowerpleasure.as.me/sensual-sanctuary
Here’s some of what you can expect…
Part 1: Agreements & container setting
We will begin the evening with a discussion about rules, agreements and container setting. The intention of this is to bring clarity into how the space will be held and where the boundaries are for the group. You will have a firm grasp on how our playground will be setup and the ways in which you can get the most out of the event.
This piece of the event is mandatory and no one will be allowed entry after we cover this.
Part 2: Conversations and teachings around consent, power, and giving & receiving
We will have a short conversation about giving and receiving, consent, and power. We say short because we will continue to talk about these topics throughout the evening, but this is meant to set that up and prepare you for the embodied experiments that come next.
Part 3: Guided experiments on touch, intimacy, and pleasure
Most of the evening will be guided experiments in touch, intimacy, and pleasure. We want you to be in your body - noticing, feeling, and integrating. Some of these experiments will involve touch and some of them will not. Either way, you will always get to choose how you participate. If you want to touch some people, but not others — it’s okay. If you want to touch no one — it’s okay. If you want to touch everyone — it’s okay.
As always, your no is as good as your yes.
There are limitless ways we can find pleasure and intimacy with one another if we can be creative and compassionate.
Touch experiments will all be non-genital and there will be limits on fluid bonding so that we can search for and create other ways to find pleasure with one another.
Register here: https://onpowerpleasure.as.me/sensual-sanctuary
More information:
Everyone must pre-register, there are no walk-ins.
For this event, there will be limits set around fluid bonding and genital touch. We want you to be creative in how you access your erotic pleasure.
This event is for women, femmes, trans, and non-binary folks only. If you identify as a cis-man, please check out my other events.
This space is wheelchair accessible.
The room will be set up with mats, and chairs are available if you do not want to get up and down off of the floor.
Please bring any preferred hygienic products for oral or body care.
This will be a no-scent space. This means no perfumes, oils, or other scents. If you use deodorant, please use a non-scent version.
Refunds are available up to one week prior to the event.
There are two work-study spots available at 50% off. If you’re interested, please email info@onpowerpleasure.com and tell me a little about yourself.
Maximum 40 people
Pricing
Early Bird (through Feb 12) - $20
Regular (through Feb 20) - $30
Last minute (through Feb 23) - $40
Embodied Community (online)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
Embodied Community (online)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
Deeper on Dating Apps (online)
How to create meaningful, pleasurable, and fulfilling connections on apps that magnify the worst in us.
Embodied Community (online)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
Touch, Pleasure, Presence
Can you imagine a space where you give yourself permission to slow down to give & receive with presence, touch, and pleasure?
In this two-day workshop facilitated by Adam Bee, you will be guided into your body to notice & reflect on what happens as you give and receive.
Embodied Community (online)
Embodied Community is a space to come into stillness, community, and imagination.
With embodied practices in meditation, witnessing and sharing, and presence.
The Power/Pleasure Retreat
The Power/Pleasure Retreat is an opportunity for you to transform your relationship to pleasure and power.
It is a space for you to imagine what you truly desire and how you want to change your world.
For all bodies, identities, and orientations.