Polyamorous, non-monogamous, and expansive relationship constellations can be deeply fulfilling.
And they can also hold challenging dynamics at the personal and group levels.
As a culture, we don’t have many models to look toward.
And generally speaking, we aren’t taught how to co-create and maintain agreements.
In this 6-week course, we are going to look at six agreements you can use as a framework for your polyam, non-monogamous, and expanded relationships.
Each week we dive deep into one agreement and give you the space to hone and refine your unique desires and limits.
These agreements provide a framework through which we can be in consent and integrity – as both require more than simply asking for permission.
By bringing a deeper awareness to these agreements, you will gain clarity and groundedness for what you need & want to be in love-centered, expansive, and safe-enough relationships.
6 Agreements for Polyam, NM, and Expanded Relationships
Wednesdays, 12 PM ET - 1:30 PM ET
August 14 - September 18, 2024
on Zoom (recordings available)
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This class is great for folks who want…
More clarity around what you need to feel safe enough in an expanded relationship
Improved communication for how you ask for what you want and say no to what you don’t want
More ease in navigating layered and complex relational dynamics
Tools to notice what you want and don’t want
Greater self-awareness in your relationships
More spaciousness to grow and explore in your relationships
Should I do this solo or with my partner(s)?
This class is for folks who are in any relationship constellation.
If you’re curious about creating more expanded relationships or already in one but looking to make things easier, better, and more fulfilling – this class is for you.
Whether you do it together or solo is up to you. This class will give you a shared language from which you can come together in new ways.
Note that each registration is personal. In the class, we will be focusing on our individual desires and limits around agreements. From there, you will be able to bring this new awareness and framework into all your relational spaces and containers.
About Adam Bee
Adam (they/them) is a coach, healer, and facilitator based in NYC.
Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of desire, consent, power, integrity, relationships, sex, and how to navigate it all with more ease.
Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other spiritual and energetic teachers.
Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.
About Helena
Helena De Felice (they/she) is a guide and facilitator.
She is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness and our capacity to connect authentically.
Her facilitation is trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive health, attending births, deaths, and entheogenic healing session, and leading queer erotic rituals.
Her work is informed by Vajaryana Buddhism, the Wheel of Consent, Process Work, Somatic Abolitionism, Holistic Peer Counseling, and Landmark. She’s grateful for her teachers Betty Martin, Resmaa Menaken, Carlin Quinn, Daniel Siegel, Arnold Mindell, Dawn Menken, Dr. Carie Bradshaw, Reggie Ray, and many more.
WHAT’S GOING TO HAPPEN
For us, agreements are the intentions we set for how we want to show up and be present. These are not rules, though rules often come from these agreements.
You will empower yourself to redefine relationships on your own terms, breaking free from the traditional confines that have many of us trapped.
This class is led and created through a trauma-informed lens that centers and celebrates choice, bodily autonomy, changing desires & limits, and the fluidity of our selves, identities, and expressions.
We are intentionally stepping back from the binary expressions and default expectations that are thrust upon many of us in relationships.
Taking responsibility for the agreements you need and want is life-changing and liberating. It requires that we question, unravel, and untether ourselves from the systems of dominance that have dictated our relational structures and frameworks.
This is an opportunity to create something new for yourself. Something better and more fulfilling.
Each week we will explore one of the agreements and how it shows up in our lives pertaining to our group's theme.
This is an emergent process so there is not a fixed agenda, how we flow depends on the energy and curiosities of the group. Within that, we will utilize fishbowl mentoring, teachings, Q&As, breakouts, listening turns, and somatic experiments.
Each week we will bring extended focus onto one of the agreements with an understanding that they are all layered and interconnected. They each present differently in each of us and in each of our relationships.
Week 1 – Vulnerability & Authenticity
Week 2 – Responsibility
Week 3 – Dynamics & Power
Week 4 – Curiosity, Unlearning, and Compassion
Week 5 – Trust
Week 6 – Presence
This group is a practice in presence, values, and love. It is an emergent embodiment of the agreements and how to navigate them with more ease.
We ask you to bring your full self to this class – physically, emotionally, and energetically. That means your vulnerabilities, fears, feelings of shame, desires, and pleasure. You always get to choose how you step in and out of participation and we will do our best to create a space that is safe enough, welcoming, and settled for all bodies and expressions.
6 Agreements and the Wheel of Consent
The 6 Agreements along with Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent are complementary to one another.
The Wheel of Consent is a practice for noticing wants and limits. The 6 Agreements act as the foundation upon which we can drop into that practice with integrity and more ease.
Consent can be outside of integrity (e.g., many jobs, healthcare, landlord/tenant contracts, etc.). And agreements become challenging without consent.
The 6 Agreements we’re working through offer frames and perspectives through which you can explore your relationships. It may help you discern whether and how you may wish to move towards deeper intimacy and relatedness with someone.
Go here to learn more about the Wheel of Consent and offerings near you.
YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
Confidentiality – to hold the group and your breakout partner(s) in confidence and to only speak about your own experiences.
Choice – to step forward and backward in the ways that are best for you. We want you to take responsibility for how you choose to participate. We want you to ask for what you want so that you can feel safe enough and be present.
Presence – to be present for yourself in the ways that are most useful for you and to be present for the group as you are willing and able.
Applications, REGISTRATION, and PAYMENT
A group like this requests your time, energy, presence, and money.
These all represent barriers to entry and if you’re someone who lives in a body that is traditionally marginalized and intentionally exploited, those barriers are usually greater.
While we do our best to create and hold groups that bring awareness to power, privilege, and rank – we know we alone cannot dismantle systems of oppression that exist in our cultures, groups, and interpersonal relationships.
In an effort to ease at least one of those dynamics, pricing is based on a sliding scale.
If you can afford to pay more than the base price, please do and understand that it helps support those who do not have as many financial resources.
If you cannot afford the base price, understand that you are helped and supported by others.
Base tuition: $400
Sliding scale: $200 - $600
After you submit your application, Adam will be in touch with you about payment, registration, and next steps.
This class is limited to 20 participants.