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Wheel of Consent for Queers

This offer includes 10.5 hours of live facilitated practice and guided home practices and short videos between sessions.

Max 20 participants, Min 8
Dates: Oct 22, 29 and Nov 5, 12, 19, 26
Hours: Tuesdays 9-11 AM Pacific, 12-2 PM Eastern
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We share brief instructional videos, optional home practice, and resources between sessions.

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About the course

This is an affinity space, welcoming participants who identify as LGBTQAIT2S+.

The Wheel of Consent® is a groundbreaking framework and awareness practice developed by Dr. Betty Martin. Since its inception, it has been brought into schools, universities, therapist programs, and organizations around the world, reshaping how practitioners are trained.

This is a deeply nuanced way to practice consent as an agreement that brings integrity, responsibility, and empowerment into all human interactions. Our lens starts with the personal and expands to the global. It includes touch, relationships, power dynamics, and social issues of equality and justice.

The practice is simple, subtle, and profound.

Using the Wheel of Consent®, we develop our capacity to tune into our bodies and our ability to skillfully and gracefully navigate interactions and dynamics in intimate and professional relationships.

You will come away from this offering with a deepened ability to navigate consent in all your interactions, including these practical embodied skills:
໑ Create a felt sense of safety in your body and nervous system
໑ Connect to what feels good and brings you joy
໑ Notice, value, and voice what you want, what you are available for, and what you don’t want
໑ Notice your tendency to go along with what is being done and reverse it
໑ Be mindful of others' tendencies to go along with what is being done and respect their limits
໑ Access two ways to receive and two ways to give and feel the joy of each of these four possibilities for interaction
໑ Navigate power dynamics, trauma, and systemic oppression and their impact on our capacity to access choice and respect boundaries
໑ Make choices that support your well-being and connection with others
໑ Express your desires, limits, preferences, and willingness with more nuance and play

Our increased awareness enables more authentic relationships centered in safety, clarity, and ease.
Applied professionally, it makes us more effective practitioners, able to affect human change and healing.
Applied personally, it allows us to access deeper and more meaningful connections.

Sliding Scale Tickets (includes the 10.5 hours of facilitated practices, home practices, and videos)
Ocean: $625 USD + GST (have investments, can afford travel/vacations)
Lake: $525 USD + GST (stable income or access to financial support)
Pond: $425 USD + GST (can afford occasional treats)
Puddle: $250 USD + GST (closer to living wage)
Contact Helena for payment plan options.

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What participants say

"Life-altering" ~ Clinical Counsellor

“It's truly transformational work and so necessary for the healing and growth we are in desperate need of" ~ Chinese Medicine Therapist

"I know myself WAY more. I am trusting my impulses, my no's and yes's and I am able to voice them more clearly now. I am grateful for this modality. It is a gentle, deep, and foundational piece for creating healthy, safe, and intimate relationships with oneself and others." ~ Teacher

"Deeply grateful for the workshop last weekend. It has been sitting with me all week. The content and my experiences have made their way into many conversations since...I feel very inspired by my experience!" ~ Acupuncturist

“Deep gratitude. This was epic for me on so many levels. Feeling a profound shift.” ~ Plant Medicine Guide

“This was transformative for me in many ways.” ~ Sexual Health Educator

Training Guidelines

How we ask that you engage with each other:

1. Confidentiality — outside the practices and the group, share only your own experience and learnings. We ask that you attend the sessions from a quiet space and use headphones if anyone is in the same room as you. No recording or screenshots of each other.

2. Feelings are welcome and do not need to be justified or explained; honor the feelings that arise in others by allowing them to feel without fixing or advising.

3. Share with intention, using "I" statements. Listen with attention.

4. Use the names and pronouns people request and honor the lived experience of others in the group. Notice and set aside assumptions about people's identities and experiences (e.g. gender, race, sexuality, etc.).

5. Stay within the stated limits of each practice. The workshop is clothed. We will not state wants for, or make requests or offers for unclothed or genital during exercises. There will be options to engage in practices with other participants and it is not required. 

What we invite for your own experience:


1. Invite beginner’s mind — everything we offer is an experiment and an opportunity to notice yourself; take what works for you and leave the rest.
2. Do not do anything you do not want to do.
3. Participation can look many ways and you choose how you want to participate — actively join an exercise, witness, journal, take a break, and change your mind at any time. You get the full value from the workshop however you choose to participate.
4. Self-care and self-regulation — take care of your needs (for water, rest, movement, etc.)

Accessibility

໑ Closed captions are available during the sessions
໑ All sessions are recorded in speaker view and available to attendees for 2 months after the last session
໑ We ask that you have your camera on for the introductions in the first session. After that, you may turn your camera off whenever it supports your participation.

Acknowledgments About Racialization, Neurodivergence, Disabilities

The course is open to anyone interested in learning the Wheel, and our intention is for this to be a safe enough space for learning for everyone. However, we recognize that this offering will not meet everyone’s needs. As a facilitators and humans, Helena and Adam committed to serving you as best as possible. Please email Helena to let us know your questions or accessibility needs, and they will do their best to accommodate them.

Refund policy

If you are unable to attend, you may choose to have your payment refunded minus an administration fee, according to the following schedule:
More than 30 days before the event: Full refund, less $30 admin fee
15-30 days before the event: 50% refund, or, if you can fill your spot with someone else, a full refund
Less than 15 days before the event: No refunds, or unless you/we can fill your spot with someone else*
*In cases of illness or family emergency, we will endeavor to refund your full tuition less any unrecoverable costs, or transfer to a future offering.

About the facilitators

Helena De Felice (they/she) is a Certified Facilitator of the Wheel of Consent® and has been facilitating Wheel practices since 2016.
Helena is passionate about developing individual and collective awareness that deepens our capacity to facilitate healing. Her facilitation is deeply trauma-responsive and non-judgemental, informed by many years in the field of prevention and response to gender-based violence, senior leadership roles in sexual and reproductive rights, attending births, deaths, and entheogenic session, and leading queer-centric erotic healing events. She has brought the Wheel of Consent® in a wide range of settings and trains facilitators in trauma-responsive facilitation skills.

Adam Bee (they/them) is a coach, mentor, guide, and facilitator based in Clarksville, TN. Their 1-1 and group work center around questions of how we can navigate relationships with more awareness of consent, power, and integrity. Their work is influenced by many teachers and thinkers including Paul Muller Ortega and his guidance within the Shaiva-Sakta non-dual lineage of tantra, Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, Resmaa Menakem’s Somatic Abolitionism, as well as many other teachers. Adam’s work with the Wheel of Consent over the last 5 years led them to further inquiries into how we create spaces of agreement that generate more love, pleasure, and fulfillment.



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