Agreements & Rules

These agreements are designed to support all of our relationships — and they support our work together. They represent key places where we need to bring awareness to ourselves and our relationships.

There is no right or wrong and the truth of these agreements is forever shifting. The point of these agreements is to help guide us into the person we want to be right now.

Responsibility

I will take responsibility for my desires, limits, and body. I will not take away your responsibility to make choices around your desires, limits, or body.

Vulnerability & Authenticity

I will bring awareness to the spaces and relationships I enter and decide for myself how honestly and authentically I want to show up.

Curiosity & unlearning

I will be consistently curious about my desires, limits, and body. I will question my habits, thoughts, and patterns, and work to unlearn pieces that I have been taught to be true by the dominant culture. When conflict arises, I will be curious about your actions and not project my own assumptions and thoughts.

Dynamics & Power

I will bring awareness to the dynamics present in my relationships. I will commit to doing my own work so that I can understand the places where I hold power, rank, and privilege. And I will notice the spots where I feel like I have a lack of power.

Trust & safety

I will be curious and questioning about what I want in order to feel safe enough to be present with myself and with you. I will ask for what I need to develop trust.

Presence

I will be conscious of my choices to be present. I will ask myself and others for what I need to be present physically, emotionally, energetically, and mentally.

Rules

The agreements are the values we strive for. The rules are limits that are required if you want to be in this space. We hold compassion for imperfection but intentional and consistent breakage of rules will result in being asked to leave.

Consent

I will navigate this space through principles and practices of consent. Specifically, we will be using the Wheel of Consent model created by Dr. Betty Martin.

Confidentiality

I will hold others and their stories in confidence and only speak about my experience.

Speak from own experience

In this container I will use “I” language and only talk about my own experience.