Power dynamics and relationships
In our relationships, unexamined power almost always leads to hurt, harm, and violence (both intentional and unintentional).
The unfortunate part is that no one wants to talk about it.
We believe it’s gauche to admit that systemic issues of race, gender, disability, money, and access to education impact our daily interactions.
And far too often, our personal power and sense of belonging are under-appreciated and ignored as real power. (But anyone who’s traversed deep personal work can tell you otherwise.)
But when we take the time to understand power and be in the practice of awareness, it almost always leads to more ease, peace, joy, and pleasure.
Those that hold an abundance of power tend to be less willing to talk about it, examine it, or question it.
We are taught from a young age to accumulate and hoard power whether that comes from our gender, skin tone, class, education, health, or ability to stay regulated in stressful situations.
Those that hold a lack of power tend to want to talk about it because they want change, and rightfully so.
But those who want to talk about it are labeled as troublesome, dramatic, over the top, or sensitive.
The fact of the matter is ignoring these discussions are ruining our personal and professional relationships.
It’s ruining our ability to be in deep connection and community with those we truly love.
And until we can learn to identify and talk about power together – the hurt, harm, and violence will continue.
Having power is not wrong
The thing is, having an abundance or lack of power is not good or bad. We are not going to be equal in whatever category you want to look at.
Someone is always going to have more or less money, be more or less feminine, more or less healthy, etc.
And that’s okay! We get to be different. We even get to celebrate these differences.
But ignoring them, pretending that they don’t exist – that’s a recipe for disaster.
Skills to navigate power dynamics
I’m most passionate about bringing awareness to power dynamics in our relationships.
When we can do this together, everything becomes easier.
Suddenly our conflicts become simple conversations and our shame, jealousy, and fear become precious parts of ourselves that can be held and cared for.
My work used to focus on pleasure and a lot of people hired me to help them find more of it in their life.
But we always bumped up against questions of power and it was held, acknowledged, and navigated.
This is the roadblock that cannot be ignored if you want more ease and fulfillment in your life and relationships.
Working with me 1-1 around power
If you are ready to step into your power, hold it, and use it in ways that don’t create more harm for yourself and others, reach out.
In my years coaching and facilitating folks around relationships, this piece is often the most transformative.
It unlocks doors that were hidden from you your entire life.
It lets light into the corners you haven’t seen.
It’s not always easy. You have to be ready and willing to question yourself, your identities you’ve created over a lifetime, and your relationships.
But I promise it’s worth it.
If you feel ready, go here to find out more and set up a consultation.