Relationships that hurt less
Relationship Coaching & Consent Education
for Organizations, Groups, and Individuals
Online & In-person in Nashville
The reason you stay in hurtful relationships is because you were taught to endure.
You have probably hurt people you love because you didn’t know how to do it differently.
It can be better. It can hurt less.
You are worthy of receiving fulfillment, pleasure, and ease. You deserve to be seen.
This work offers a way for individuals and groups to negotiate relationships so that they are easier, more fulfilling, and less harmful.
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This work is about moving you from a place of painful, harmful, and hurtful relationships into ease, fulfillment, and happiness.
Whether you are struggling with romantic partners, family members, friends, or coworkers, this work can be transformative in how you show up with others.
Through each step of the process, your authentic self will begin to emerge.
In our time together, you’ll gain more clarity around your limits and desires, as well as the skills needed to communicate them clearly.
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Clients who have shown up fully often leave this work with a renewed clarity of what they want and a readiness to say no to what they are no longer willing to endure.
Clients have
→ found new and fulfilling relationships
→ figured out how to open up their relationship in ways that felt safe and pleasurable for everyone
→ discovered new and more aligned ways to express their gender, sexuality, and desires
→ moved to their dream home/city
→ left unfulfilling jobs
→ asked their partners to renegotiate the agreements of their relationship
→ stepped closer to the folks and partners they loved
→ set new boundaries around family and friends
→ in general found new ways to find pleasure and fulfillment within themselves.
This work will change how you show up for yourself and others. It will fundamentally change the ways you approach and ask for intimacy, connection, relationships, and fulfillment. For many clients, these questions are about primary partners, family, colleagues, and friends. But it also extends to money, food, our physical appearance, and so much more.
We come together and create a space where we get to take truly radical responsibility for our desires, limits, and bodies. We create experiments together to unlearn what has not worked for us while rediscovering new ways to move in our bodies.
The transformative essence of this work revolves around prioritizing love, justice, consent, and integrity. That requires us to untether ourselves from the systems of dominance that have promised us so much and delivered so little.
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→ how to say no and set limits with love and compassion
→ moving beyond the fear of rejection so you can ask for all that you want
→ moving beyond people pleasing, overgiving, and enduring
→ asking for what you want, knowing what you want, receiving what you want
→ how to be in integrity with yourself, your values, and agreements
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This work is for you if you’re ready to say no to unhealthy relationships that are harmful, hurtful, emotionally violent or abusive, or simply no longer aligned with who you are right now.
This work can be done at the individual level or within organizations and groups.
This work asks that you show up with a lot of curiosity about yourself, your responsibilities, your integrity, your body, your desires, and your limits.
We’ll explore the unique challenges facing you and create experiments that are tailored to your needs.
We’ll also examine the socio-cultural implications that impact our relationships.
The folks who see the biggest results are the ones who are willing to be present — especially when it gets hard.
I began this journey because I didn’t know how to say no to unhealthy, painful relationships.
I felt trapped and I kept making the same choices.
I didn’t feel seen by my friends. My romantic partnerships were hurtful, shallow, and emotionally dysregulating.
I would entrench myself in groups and communities that were not aligned with my values of justice, equity, and inclusivity.
I didn’t know what I was doing wrong or what to do to make it better, but I knew it had to be better than this.
And it makes sense — Most of us had poor models for how to create fulfilling, generative, and spacious relationships.
We have to choose to unlearn the old ways so that we can create something better.
This work is for folks who want to untether and unravel themselves from creating and maintaining relationships that are hurtful, harmful, or unfulfilling.
This work is for folks who want to make it better for themselves.
I have been on that journey, and I remain on that journey.
I know the fear, shame, guilt, and grief that comes with it. And I know what it feels like on the other side.
My skills lie in helping you see the shadows, find where it hurts, and help you find a path that feels more fulfilling.
Together we’ll create a relationship that centers an awareness of agreements on responsibility, consent, curiosity, power, presence, and safety.
You will discover what it feels like to be in relationships that are less hurtful and harmful.